If you consistently ask someone to fix your problems for you, you don’t gain experience, they do. Learn how to be more self-sufficient. By doing so, you can change your approach to so many aspects of your life.
This article is about becoming more independent. It is about being able to fend for yourself in order to provide for yourself, without relying on other people.
It is not a guide to satisfying basic needs by explaining that you should avoid over consumption, save money, cook your own food and grow it or source it locally if possible. Those things, although important, can’t happen until you make some crucial changes to your mindset, sometimes referred to as a mindset shift.
Being able to support yourself, not only financially but also socially, emotionally, spiritually and physically, is something a lot of people take for granted. Doing things for yourself, instead of relying on others, will give you the sense of control you’re probably lacking. We tend to give up when we lack discipline.
Although it might seem easier to delegate a task than to do it ourselves, remember that by attempting the task at hand, you might actually learn something.
There are two things that might be holding you back.
- Your sense of entitlement.
- Your ego.
What is a sense of entitlement?
Your sense of entitlement, is something people very rarely recognise in themselves. It is a personality trait that exists in many forms. If you can relate to any of the examples below, then you might be dealing with an unhealthy sense of entitlement.
- You feel the need to be recognized or acknowledged for work that was done not by you but for you, by someone else.
- You are aggressive or self-pitying when you are frustrated, you lash out at others rather than looking inwards, you fail to see your own faults.
- You feel as though organizations or individuals owe you something, even though you have contributed nothing.
- You insult other people’s achievements and put them down. You try to dim their light in order to make yours shine brighter.
- You feel like you’re an…